Marcus Aurelius: If someone scorns me, that is their…

Another person's dislike can pull us into a costly performance. We may obsess over changing their mind, retaliate to protect our pride, or become so guarded that we stop acting naturally. None of these responses gives us much peace. You are responsible for your conduct, not for every interpretation of it. That responsibility still includes self-examination: if a criticism is accurate, learn from it. If you have harmed someone, repair what you can. But when hostility is simply hostility, do not let it recruit you into becoming hostile too. Keep your standards clear and your boundaries firm. You can decline abuse without returning contempt. Today, if you encounter a cutting remark or cold reception, delay your reaction. Ask what response would be useful, truthful, and consistent with the person you want to be. Let that answer—not the other person's mood—direct your next move.