Marcus Aurelius Meditations
Marcus Aurelius: Use thyself; as often, as thou seest…
Use thyself; as often, as thou seest any man do anything, presently (if it be possible) to say unto thyself, What is this man's end in this his action? But begin this course with thyself first of all, and diligently examine thyself concerning whatsoever thou doest.
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Behavior makes more sense when you ask what it is trying to get. The person who dominates the conversation may want importance. The coworker who withholds information may want security. The friend who constantly jokes may want protection from vulnerability. This question can make you less reactive, but Marcus wisely says to begin with yourself. Why are you sending that message? Why are you volunteering? Why are you avoiding the call? Our stated reasons are often polished; our real motives may include fear, vanity, comfort, or a genuine wish to help. You do not need to become suspicious of every impulse. You need enough honesty to see what is driving you. Today, pause before one routine action and ask, ‘What am I hoping this will get me?’ Let the answer guide you toward a cleaner choice.
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