Seneca Moral essays
Seneca: Sorrow is awkward at reviewing the position of…
Sorrow is awkward at reviewing the position of affairs, at devising useful expedients, avoiding dangerous courses, and weighing the merits of fair and just ones: therefore the wise man will not feel pity, because this cannot happen to a man unless his mind is disturbed.
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When we are overwhelmed by another person’s pain, we can become less useful to them. Panic narrows the mind. It makes us miss options, exaggerate danger, and confuse shared distress with support. This is why the Stoics ask for something more durable than pity: a steady compassion that can act. If a friend receives bad news, they do not need you to collapse beside them. They need you to listen, help make the call, bring the food, find the information, or simply remain present without making the crisis about your feelings. This is not coldness. It is love with its hands free. You can care deeply and still keep your judgment intact. The next time someone is hurting, do not ask how intensely you can feel it. Ask what their situation requires from you. Be calm enough to be of real use.
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